Day four is often a ‘hump’ day in intensive care and so it has been. Having the safety net of the epidural removed has caused a certain amount of anxiety. The complex nature of the operation has resulted in a large wound and several smaller ones. Today Brenda is very aware of them and the fear of more pain as the pain meds are adjusted she finds frightening. She may be tough on the outside but, she is not on the inside. Panic on the dance floor might be something for the disco but, panic in the ICU is not what we want. We’ve had some tears but, the ICU staff has done their best to allay her fears about pain management going forward. We should be out of here tomorrow and back to our friends on the ward.
Brenda won't back down 
Ahhh, that sounds so tough … so so hard … my heart goes out to you both. Pray that the drugs work some magic.
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The healing has started Brenda, it’s a long journey but you’ve been down that road before & know the ropes back to front; together with your indomitable strength & resilience I’m sure your guardian angels will be looking after you and guiding you towards a return to health…poco a poco…. xoxox
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I’m so very sorry you are going through this. So very, very hard for you both. And here’s hoping the magic of pain meds really helps you Brenda, as much as it can. For the rest, my only suggestion is swearing – ‘fuckity fuck fuck’ is my go too – repeated :-). Big big hug and so much love to you all ❤️❤️
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Sending lots of pain reducing love and hugs to the brave girl. And love and big hugs to you too Trend. Xxx. Tamara, James and Hugo
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I wish you more comfort and let the pain meds work for you. You are a warrior. I send hugs 🫂 .
On Fri., Mar. 18, 2022, 2:29 p.m. Brenda won’t back down, wrote:
> brendawontbackdown posted: ” Day four is often a ‘hump’ day in intensive > care and so it has been. Having the safety net of the epidural removed has > caused a certain amount of anxiety. The complex nature of the operation has > resulted in a large wound and several smaller ones. Tod” >
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Fuckity-fuck indeed x stay strong.
Always remember you are braver than you believe
Stronger than you think
More beautiful than you imagine
and loved more than you know
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Thank you for the update. Continuing to keep you all in our prayers 🙏. Sending love and hugs across the pond 🤗
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Brenda keep moving forward, you are a strong woman! My prayers are with you, hugs!
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Trend, sending you both so much love and big hugs. So good to hear Brenda’s back to the ward tomorrow. A huge journey for you both. Baby steps and all going in the right direction Xxxx
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Hump de Bump gave me a lump, in my throat. I know how brave you both are facing these challenges but I hate the thought of uncontrolled pain. Brenda I so hope the meds kick-in and the hours are more bearable. x
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Sending our love and thoughts as you move through the surgery, pain, and family separation. Our hope is that it leads you home soon and provides some relief from what you have been experiencing. XXOO
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I hope all the love and support helps give you strength Brenda, you’re doing good, step by step. XX
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Brenda we hope the pain meds are doing their thing and you are feeling more comfortable. This must be very difficult for you but stay strong . Love to you all xxx
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